Coping with Life

Life is about coping with life.

Okay, maybe that’s not terribly profound. It’s something that occurred to me this morning. I’ve just had a bad week, emotionally, for no apparent reason, other than coping with change.

I always feel compelled to add caveats when I make flat statements, in the interest of full disclosure, I guess. Life is about more than just coping, but it’s a basic element. If you can’t cope, you can’t do much else. As my therapist says, if you keep out all the bad stuff, you also keep out the good stuff.

My best friend is coping with a whole host of new life changes: he has a child at an advanced age (not THAT advanced, but after becoming somewhat set in his ways), dealing with several personal losses, being the head of his extended family, mundane and spiritual worries…It’s difficult. It’s also difficult for me, trying to understand what he’s going through, wanting to help, not knowing what to do, coping with my own fears.

My wise pastor said yesterday in the sermon that you never know what is going to happen to you in life. He’s said before that you choose how you’re going to react to what happens to you.

I like the word "intentional." Coping is intentional. Making choices. It is SO hard when you’re in the middle of a depression episode to see any way out. Like being inside a deep valley that’s dark and you can’t see up above the hills surrounding you to know that somewhere the sun is actually out and it isn’t night anymore. The "valley of the shadow of death," I guess.

Coping is an action verb, though. I guess "hide more" is too, but that’s not a constructive option. It didn’t help me any last week.

Not sure I have any answers, really. Cope. Reach out. Keep choosing.

Sometimes day by day is way too hard. Sometimes it’s hour by hour. You can’t eat an elephant all at once.

Blogalyser result

The Blogalyser reveals…

Your blog/web page text has an overall readability index of 16.

This suggests that your writing style is intellectual
(to communicate well you should aim for a figure between 10 and 20).Your blog has 32 sentences per entry, which suggests your general message is distinguished by verbosity
(writing for the web should be concise).


male malefemale female
self oneselfgroupworld world
past pastpresentfuture future


Your text shows characteristics which are 58% male and 42% female
(for more information see the Gender Genie).
Looking at pronoun indicators, you write mainly about yourself, then the world in general and finally your social circle. Also, your writing focuses primarily on the present, next the past and lastly the future.

Find out what your blogging style is like!

My weirdness, according to Hatmandu

So, dkfitch, your LiveJournal reveals…

You are… 0% unique, 20% peculiar, 0% interesting, 20% normal and 60% herdlike (partly because you, like everyone else, enjoy writing). When it comes to friends you are normal. In terms of the way you relate to people, you are keen to please. Your writing style (based on a recent public entry) is conventional.

Your overall weirdness is: 26

(The average level of weirdness is: 29.
You are weirder than 57% of other LJers.)

Find out what your weirdness level is!

Here’s how I see it

On the topic of Twitter/Facebook, etc.

I use Twitter to post to Facebook. Keeps me succinct and satisfies posts at two places at once. Twitter is so "it" and fun, I feel like I need a presence there, especially when I start really marketing my work. @dkfitch

I am loving Facebook. I never thought I’d have 90 friends. The vast majority of them are writers from HWA whom I’ve never met in person. Seeing their status updates about their writing projects gives me a real sense of comradery, and I enjoy seeing what other people’s writing processes are.

I have a MySpace page, but never use it. The nasty backgrounds give me such a headache. I’m a terrible web design snob.

I use LiveJournal for blogging longer entries, which then get posted to Facebook.

My website,, I use as a home base. Anyone can get to it and find it. That’s where I keep my updated resume and works list.

Each site serves a purpose. I like applications that help me maximize the use of each one for duplicative information, but I try not to duplicate too much.

Surgery Anniversary

Today is the 2-year anniversary of Thomas’ quadruple bypass surgery. Wow. Hard to believe.